Life gets easier. 12/07/2009
 I wondered if it would help any of my mid life friends who are having a rough time, to say, 'life gets easier'? It has, for me anyhow, I think being mid 60's is a heck of a lot easier than mid life. You work just as hard and have just as pushy a boss, but the boss is you ;-) LOL J, so you can tell the boss where to go, any time you want to. :-). As a senior, the money tree (if there ever was one), seems to be drying up, but there seems to be less need for money, less endless drain on resources. Money is not like water any more, it does not slip through your fingers and it does not seem like your now working flat out to fill the bath with several drain holes seemingly emptying it faster than you can pour it in. Then there is the family. J. Senior years is the ‘reap the rewards’, years. We can be there to support the children and grandchildren if we have them and I am off to clean my daughter’s house today to help her though a busy time. I also get to be able to step back and leave the major responsibility to the new parents, our children and trust that each generation learns from both our good qualities and our mistakes and is doing a better job of parenting than we did. We have time to travel, time to pursue self funded hobby business, do creative pursuits, volunteer in rewarding ways and lol, ever start a new family again if we still have the energy and the positive spirit to start afresh. I was chatting to a senior widower about a life insurance lead and at an age where some people are planning their cemetery plot, he is making plans to remarry and live life to the full. There is a saying about positive living in senior years that I love:- ‘He who laughs lasts’ Life ‘still happens’ to us as we age, but the responsibility for extended family lessens. Of course, many of us become carers, as I am for a loved one, but most of us do have less overall responsibility and pressure on us. I don’t know about you, but for me and I think my man, J, even while we deal with the effects of aging, we are more relaxed, and able to plan our days the way we want them to be and as an independent spirited person, I love that J. So to all my mid life friends J xxx. If life is tough at times, hang on to your seat for the ride, the gray with an a for active nomad years are ahead of you and they are wonderful years to look forward to J Research shows that Life appears to be harder for people in the mid life. According to research data collected on 2 million people in 80 countries, happiness follows a U-shaped curve in which people are happy in their 20s and get miserable in their 40s. Contradicting earlier studies that said well-being remained flat throughout life, new research found that in 72 of the 80 countries studied (the only exceptions were reportedly in the developing world), "people slide down a U-shaped level of happiness and mental health throughout their lives." Andrew Oswald from Warwick University in Britain, who co-led the study with David Blanchflower of Dartmouth College, told reporters, "It happens to men and women, to single and married people, to rich and poor, and to those with and without children. Nobody knows why we see this consistency." I can guess: mortality, illness, career disappointments, dreams that are not coming true. Your parents get sick and die. Your kids grow up and leave home. Your professional life hits the brick wall of reality, as you realize that, no, you aren't going to be president or CEO, or have your own show or that house on the beach. The good news from the research study on middle age is that better days are yet to come. The academics found that if you make it to 70 and you're still physically fit, you're likely to be as happy and mentally healthy as a 20-year-old. Positive news to share with any stressed out mid life friend. Tell them ‘hang on, it gets easier’. Comments Comments are closed. |  Images of Australia in the Paintings and Writing of Artist Author Kathy Shell are created on location while touring in an Eco-Tourer Caravan. `````````````````````````
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